Your Mental Health

[Mr Snrub]

Cheers Fwoy *






* I am assuming free drinks and constant loop of Niggas in Paris being played...

[Fwoy]

In respect to the OT, there is always times of some form of depression in all our lives I feel. My brother has depression, and takes meds for it. There are times I feel guilty for not being more concerned or trying to find a way out for him, but as with my staff, you can't control their lives. I'm always there if he needs to talk, but at the same time, I'm not trained to help. I don't want to give the wrong advice or belittle him.

I've never been in a depth where I feel I've lost control. I've definitely thought of the impact of suicide, but never been serious in thinking I should or would do that. I have a bit of a don't care attitude to whether I am cool or not in other peoples eyes. Never have. I do what makes me happy. Most of my friends are 5-10 years younger than me. Part and parcel of the job and staff and my lifestyle I guess. I run the fine line of being immature, with having stressful responsibilities at the same time. I tend to not think about work in my time off. I need me time. I'm not argumentative and have a large tolerance level. Having said that, I can rant when I feel the need to.

[r dub]

What constitutes depression btw? It seems a term that is thrown around pretty loosely, say what makes one person 'depressed' and another person feeling depressed for a couple of months if that makes sense.

[Fwoy]

TIA first anniversary party at Fwoy 's pub

Only if ABH supplies me some free Jack Daniels to offset my losses

[Fwoy]

*Also, seeing a celebrity nude for the first time always cheers me up

[Zarrix]

I've become quite saddened at the pattern of my life of late. I can have days where I feel really good about myself, followed up by a while when I just feel awful. Tuesday- Got job interviews, talked to people at uni, got work done. Was a pretty good day. Then yesterday was an absolute shocker. Didn't want to talk to anyone, one of the job interviews got revoked...

I would honestly have half of my brain replaced by rocks if it meant that I could talk to people properly and become socially competent. It's just been getting me down so much lately because I am not satisfied with my progress in that area and can't seem to do enough to get it fixed. Got no confidence in myself in such situations 90% of the time unless I'm absolutely hammered, which I do get at least once a week just so I can talk to people properly and without inhibition in a social situation. I just become really nervous when I see/ meet someone and I don't know what to do or can't do what should be done.

I know what to do to fix it, it's just there seems to be a wall there in my brain that prevents what needs to be done from being done. It's eating me up inside.

[KaLL]

I would honestly have half of my brain replaced by rocks if it meant that I could talk to people properly and become socially competent. It's just been getting me down so much lately because I am not satisfied with my progress in that area and can't seem to do enough to get it fixed. Got no confidence in myself in such situations 90% of the time unless I'm absolutely hammered, which I do get at least once a week just so I can talk to people properly and without inhibition in a social situation. I just become really nervous when I see/ meet someone and I don't know what to do or can't do what should be done.

I know what to do to fix it, it's just there seems to be a wall there in my brain that prevents what needs to be done from being done. It's eating me up inside.

If you're losing already in the confidence stakes, why not just go all out. It's not like you'll end up any worse, and you might surprise yourself with the results.

[Pumbi]

What constitutes depression btw? It seems a term that is thrown around pretty loosely, say what makes one person 'depressed' and another person feeling depressed for a couple of months if that makes sense.

Depression is actually classified by a series of criteria I believe. If you possess five (or more) of the symptoms in a short space of time (I think its a few weeks) then I believe it can be diagnosed. We are talking things like a lack of sleep, not eating, general low mood etc. Depression can often be mis-diagnosed or informally diagnosed, particularly when its self-assessed. Dysthymia is a more chronic, yet less intense form of depression which is classified by having only a small number of symptoms but for a much greater length of time (we are talking 2 years +).

I, like many, have some dark moments in life. Its always when I am alone and have to time to think, and hence over analyse the problems in my life, which in the bigger picture, are miniscule. If I ever get in this state of mind, I first look to family. I have great parents who I can talk to about anything and I can particularly just talk to mum and I will instantly feel better. If that fails, i'll look to mates. Its here when I realise that my life isn't so bad at all; the fact that i've got a great set of mates to talk to means that I am blessed.

[Nige Cooper]

I would honestly have half of my brain replaced by rocks if it meant that I could talk to people properly and become socially competent. It's just been getting me down so much lately because I am not satisfied with my progress in that area and can't seem to do enough to get it fixed. Got no confidence in myself in such situations 90% of the time unless I'm absolutely hammered, which I do get at least once a week just so I can talk to people properly and without inhibition in a social situation. I just become really nervous when I see/ meet someone and I don't know what to do or can't do what should be done.

I get that so much, the amount of times I'm surrounded by a group of people and have to hold back quips because nobody will get/appreciate them is ridiculous

[Deebz]

I run/own a pub. It's been a number of small things building up...sort of hit a peak yesterday. I have evidence of theft. Single mum in her forties, so I feel guilty in that sense, but at the end of the day, she stole from me...

Don't feel guilty. It's employee misconduct and she has violated your trust, you have every right to take this course of action with her.

[KaLL]

I get that so much, the amount of times I'm surrounded by a group of people and have to hold back quips because nobody will get/appreciate them is ridiculous

Meh, theres always a failure rate with those things but if you keep on going a few are bound to stick. Thats my motto anyway, you figure out quickly on that theres some people nobody can win with and others who just hang off every word you say.

[Zarrix]

If you're losing already in the confidence stakes, why not just go all out. It's not like you'll end up any worse, and you might surprise yourself with the results.

Yep, it's something that certainly have thought about. It's strange, because in certain situations I am quite confident. For example, I generally ace uni presentations, and contribute a lot in tutorials etc. And of course around people I know I express myself quite well without alcohol. But when it comes to talking about informal stuff with strangers outside the bounds of the formal topical environment of a lecture-tutorial room or even a work place, I get completely lost, blank and nervous. For example, if a tutor asks me a question about something, I know what to say, and I say it with confidence. If a person next to me asks me something quite random, then I can hardly conjure up a decent response most times.

Even when I do get a spark and initiative, I quickly go back into my shell whenever I detect one negative which I interpret as implying failure. And I just suck at talking in group situations, I'll just sit there trying to think of something to contribute, by the time which the topic has already moved on.

I've been trying things such as looking good (nicely dressed, clean shaven), running and fitness, even meditation style exercises. Works sporadically, or if everything goes right (usually meaning I haven't got myself into too many of the situations I dislike), but it's an absolute bastard of a thing to try and make right.

The lyrics of this song sum up my situation quite well metaphorically.

02.I Was A Prisoner In Your Skull - Swans - YouTube

[MarshallMathers]

Playing sport is very important. Released Endorphins and just gets your mind off the shit stuff. I always feel good after training or a game.

Also, as tempting as it is to get smashed after a shit week of work/uni/school to forget it all, you will only return to the same problems you did on Monday that u had on Friday. I've done this time and time again.

[Deebz]

Playing sport is very important. Released Endorphins and just gets your mind off the shit stuff. I always feel good after training or a game.

Also, as tempting as it is to get smashed after a shit week of work/uni/school to forget it all, you will only return to the same problems you did on Monday that u had on Friday. I've done this time and time again.

I think that's one of the things that stupid SBS Insight show completely missed in their attack on young males. Going to the gym =/= playing rec sport, it's a release from the shitness of life that we all need.

[KaLL]

Even when I do get a spark and initiative, I quickly go back into my shell whenever I detect one negative which I interpret as implying failure. And I just suck at talking in group situations, I'll just sit there trying to think of something to contribute, by the time which the topic has already moved on.

Yeah look i think everyone feels like that and gets those negative emotions from somebody at any stage, but people react different. I react by forcing myself into the conversation and if a person continues to react negatively to what i'm saying its because they have something against me as a person, instead of against what i'm actually saying.

When i realise this, i then usually annoy or pull the piss out of that person because i'm a jerk.